Dealing With the Loss of a Horse


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Through riding we establish strong bonds with our horses. The loss of a horse can often feel like the loss of a part of ourselves. When you’re trying to deal with the loss of your horse, it can be hard to even think about looking at horses for sale and buying a horse. If you’ve recently lost your horse, these tips can help get you through the difficult time.

Give Yourself Time to Mourn

The loss of a horse is a traumatic experience. Whether your horse has passed away, or you have “lost” a horse in the sense that he has been sold or your lease has ended, you will need to accept the fact that you are going to hurt for a while. Let yourself be upset and mourn your horse.

Whether or not you ride during this period is an individual choice. Some riders prefer to separate themselves from horses for a while, and it’s perfectly acceptable to take a break. Other riders find it better to keep themselves involved in the horse world, finding that simply being in the presence of other horses can help them to heal. Make the choice based on what you feel is best for you.

Honor Your Horse

Finding ways to honor your horse’s memory can help you deal with his loss. You may wish to create a memorial for your horse. Framing a favorite photograph and including mementos that will help you remember your horse can ensure that he will always be present in your home. You might also consider commissioning a painting of your horse.

There are countless other ways to memorialize your horse. Some owners prefer to make videos to showcase the great times they had with their horse. Bracelets can be crafted out of your horse’s tail hair, and even ceramic bowls can be created incorporating strands of your horse’s hair. If you have a pair of your horse’s shoes, you might turn them into picture frames or frame them to hang on your wall.

Don’t Make Big Decisions

Immediately going out to look at horses for sale, or taking the opposite route and selling off all of your tack, equipment, and horse float, are significant choices with big implications. It is best to avoid making such decisions until some time has passed – generally at least three months – since you experienced your loss. In the immediate face of a loss, you are thinking based on your emotions, and the choices you make might not necessarily be the ones that you would make once some time has passed. Do your best to put off making any major decisions until you have had time to process the loss.

While losing a horse is a horrible experience to go through, you will eventually start to feel better. At some point you’ll find yourself ready to look at horses for sale, and to begin to establish that great relationship with a new horse.

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